#45 | Navigating Your Underworld With Conscious Kink - Justice Schanfarber
“Two people coming together and exploring through all kinds of archetypal personifications [...] is transformative.”
My guest today is Justice Schanfarber, an artist, marriage counsellor and couples therapist.
He is also the author of a two books, including “Conscious Kink for Couples: The beginner’s guide to using kinky sex and BDSM for pleasure, growth, intimacy, and healing.”
Our conversation today, we cover some intimate terrority, including: an introduction into the erotic terrain of kink, the power and peril of exploring ritual sex, and the mythic paradox between the underworld and the overworld and how to navigate power exchange between partners.
And finally, we unpack the archetypal split between the Good Boy/Bad Boy dilemma that many men in this culture face and how to invite integration through conscious kink.
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SHOW NOTES
Unpacking Conscious Kink
Overview of the sexual terrain
Building an erotic vocabulary
The Good Boy/Bad Boy divide
The Eve and Lilith split in men
Three kinds of sex
Spontaneous sex
Maintenance sex
Ritual sex
“Pain is an interpretation”
Between trauma and taboo
Power exchange in kink
From consent to contact
